written by Donna Bergeron
I read the article by Colette Baron- Reid about aligning your worldly actions with your inner values. I posted her blog on my facebook page and this prompted some responses. I wanted to add some dialogue to why I thought this article was important and how I understood it.
I feel that our Western belief system is to measure our success (self-worth) by what we accomplish (goals) and what we don't achieve. Goals are certainly important but they don't measure your worth. You are already worthy right now. The important point is that when you are working towards a set task, you want to make sure you are AWARE of what is the root of this motivation.
Unfortunately our motivations are generally initiated by some type of wound we experienced in our developing stages of life. We are motivated to be better parents because of our wounds from our parents' innocent ignorance. We are motivated to have better partnerships in our unions because of our wounds from what we observed in the break down in unions around us. We are motivated to create more guarantees and longevity because of our wounds that we experience in participating in endings. We are motivated and determined to protect our differences because of our wounds all through time have shown us that being different is not easy.
I believe it is a good thing that people are able to turn their pain into initiations for a greater good. The challenge arises when that wound is not healed first before taking action. The motivation is then generally based on the protection of that person's self-worth and a very individualized bigger picture. This approach of protection of the "self" usually crosses out someone else's individualized portrait creating conflict. If everyone is protecting the self, your conflict is deeply rooted ranging from government all the way down to the dynamics of the family. You not only have dysfunctional systems but the conflict in your head is the hardest battle of all.
I believe the article is trying to show that when you set your goals remove the measurement of self-worth from the equation. Then really determine what is motivating your worldly actions. Is it your wound? If it was motivated by your inner self and not the EGO, then maybe resolutions presented will benefit everyone and not the select few. I also feel it is important to make sure you are not influenced by someone else's wounds. It is this very thought that allow pharmaceutical companies dancing in a large profit. They are more interested in medicating your wounds instead of allowing you to heal them.
I wonder how much the conflict would dissolve (even in our heads) if our goals were motivated by healing the wounds instead of feeding off of them. I am just saying.